Uninvited Bible Study Notes – Chapters 4 and 5, Conversation Starters and Blessing Others

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Week 2 of this study and each chapter gets better.  To think before I started this study I did not think any of it would be applicable to me, but I should have known better.  I have yet to do a Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study and it not punch me some place.

Chapter 4 – Alone in a Crowded Room

Have you ever walked in a crowded room and felt alone?  I have and it takes a whole lot of Jesus to get me through.

Lysa reminded us the problem is not the people in the crowded room, and that we need to prepare in advance with a fullness from God, and that we have to respect ourselves so that we can be able to break our pattern of unlacing unrealistic expectations on others.  Ouch!  Why do I place those expectations on others?  How do I prepare in advance?  This was an eye opener for me as she shared the secret shift we have to make and that is:

“Do I walk into situations prepared with the fullness of God in me, free to look for ways to bless others?”


Do I walk into situations empty and dependent on others to look for ways to bless me?”

I have been guilty of walking into a room and expecting others to seek me out.  I am an introvert, and it is hard for me to start a conversation. Here are some ways you and I can start a conversation at an event:


I’m printing out a smaller version of this and tucking it in my wallet until I get them imprinted in my mind.

Share some ways you start a conversation.  I would love to hear your ideas.

Lysa shared Paul’s prayer to the Ephesians about the fullness of God in Ephesians 3:14-19:

Oh that when we walk in a room of people that we might grasp that fullness of our Lord so that we might bless others.


Chapter 5 – Hello My Name Is Trust Issues

One of my favorite take aways from this chapter was that “the peace of our souls does not rise and fall with unpredictable people or situations.  Our feelings will shift, of course. People do affect us.  But the peace of our souls is tethered to all that God is.”

Here are the notes from Chapters 1 through 2.




FIVE – Yes FIVE Grandchildren

23 Sep


i-prayed-for-this-child-and-the-lord-has-granted-what-i-asked-of-himWhat a fun prompt today at Kate Motaung’s Five-Minute Friday!!  I thought what am I going to write about with today’s prompt.  Well, we will be welcoming three new grandchildren next March.  Say WHAT?  We will have five ages three and two and three the same age.

I don’t even have to write any further because I shared all about it earlier this week in this post  “We’re Expecting More Grandchildren Soon“.  Grandchildren have not come easy for us.  Children did not come easy for us either with miscarriages, toxemia, two breach babies – one of which was nine weeks early.  I wrote about my Trust Fund babies here.

YES, we’ve prayed just like Hannah did and God is granting our requests.  I’ve prayed He would bless us just as He did Abraham with future generations just like the stars in the sky.

Trying to think of something funny to go with my five.  I’m calling the three due in March triplets – even though they are a set of twins and one.  What’s something cute I could use with Five?  Any thoughts?

So there you go #FMF friends the latest about how God has blessed our family even when there was no hope with my children’s miscarriages, infertility and disease.



Uninvited Bible Study Notes- Chapters 1-3

20 Sep

Uninvited Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely by Lysa Terkeurst


We all experience rejections, insecurities and fears.

When I first read the title, as always with these studies, I thought I don’t remember ever feeling uninvited, but as I really sit down and began to dive into this book in these first three chapters I can see where I have felt less than, left out and even lonely during my sixty plus years. If we are honest and ponder back we can see how those lies have impacted us from school years into the golden years.

Chapter 1 –  I’d Rather Ignore Honesty

“Come out, come out, wherever you are” – Those were some of Lysa’s first words in chapter 1 reminding us that “honesty wants to speak to the least tidy version of the woman I’ve become.”  I’ll never play hide and seek with my grandsons again and not remember those words.  We try to make things seem better than they actually are.

In becoming honest with ourselves she reminds us that “no matter how saved, sanctified, mature, and free we are, there are misalignments embedded in our souls.”

In Chapter 1, Lysa talks about lines of rejection.  Lines of rejection can be lines that have stayed with us from childhood, from the school years, dating years, marriage years and even all those career years.  Can you remember a time you were rejected by someone in school or even bullied?  Can you remember things that your parents did at a tender age?  These can be simple things that we take personally like unkind or hurtful words, or they can be staggering things like Lysa shared where a parent left and made you feel rejected.  Perhaps a marriage has failed, or a spouse has had an affair and you still carry lines of rejection or thoughts of rejection whispering to you, and you find yourself agreeing with those lies.  How about being laid off or fired from a job?  Lines of lies that linger and linger and begin to define who we are NOT.

Lisa told us to really sit quietly with the Lord and ask what are some of the statements that are still affecting you?  She told us to write just one down and watch how that lie has become a label that sticks with us.  They becomes lies, then labels, then liabilities in our future relationships.  These labels can make us become suspicious of everyone else.

One of my favorite quotes from this chapter was when Lysa was at the airport, had forgotten her luggage and she said, “I’m just such an idiot.  i invite so much unnecessary drama and complication in my life, because my pace and my brain aren’t in sync.  I mean, seriously, what is wrong with my brain?!”  The luggage man then extended his arm, held up his hand and said, “Not in my presence will you talk about yourself this way.  Absolutely not.”  That’s one statement I needed to hear because I’ve called myself stupid so many times, or a failure – failure as a Mom, failure as a housekeeper, failure as a wife failure, failure, failure.  I remember the last time I did that my husband reminded me I am not now nor ever have been a failure. I can imagine my Father looking down at me and saying “Not in my presence will you talk about yourself this way.  Absolutely not.”  I don’t think I’ll ever call myself a failure again.

I am not a gossiper.  I can keep a truth if you ask me to, but I have talked about me in ways that I would not knowingly let another person talk to me that way.  Lysa calls it “self-rejection.”  “Not in my presence will you talk about yourself this way.  Absolutely not.”

“Rejection steals the best of who I am by reinforcing the worst of what’s been said to me.” That’s a truth reminding us of the nagging feelings we can have when we are rejected – not invited – lines said to us – all those whatevers it is that have caused deep hurts in deep places in your heart.  We forget God is telling us we are good, we are loved??????  Have you ever not been invited?  I know I have, but honestly it doesn’t bother me now.  I hope I’ve never made anyone feel that way.  Have you ever invited someone to something, and they called at the last minute and could not come?  Ever felt a pang of rejection?

Chapter 2 – Three Questions We Must Consider

In this chapter we learned about anchors, and not the anchor that my son throws to anchor his boat, but rather things of this world and how they are incapable of being anchors.

Lysa reminded us that “the beliefs we hold should hold us up even when life feels like it’s falling apart.”  That’s a sentence I believe every single one of us can cling to today and every day.  The beliefs we hold should be an anchor that grounds us when we are shaken to the core, and believe me I have been, and I bet you have to.  God’s goodness is not based on how we feel, but rather His truth, and we have to be aligned with His truths in order to be anchored.

So what were the three questions Lysa shared?

  1. Is God good?
  2. Is God good to me?
  3. Do I trust God to be God?

THINGS of this world can not be our anchors.  Our anchor is Jesus Christ.  Our identities must be in Him.  We are His.  Lysa reminded us that “what consumes my thinking will be the making or the breaking of my identity.”  Oh that stinkin’ thinking.  You know you’ve done it.  We need to STOP it.


CHAPTER 3 – There’s a Lady at The Gym Who Hates Me

This chapter got me.   Not that a lady in the gym hates me, but the way I can assign thoughts to others that they are not even thinking.  Have you found yourself doing that?  I have, but I’ve gotten better at it.  I could so used to think I knew exactly what my husband was thinking, and bless his heart he didn’t have a clue and you know what nor did I.  Lysa says, “we own a rejection from them they never gave me.”

Lysa had a perceived rejection with a lady at the gym, and she thought she knew what that lady was thinking.

Don’t do it.  Don’t let your mind even wander there.  You don’t know what another person is thinking.  Satan is putting lies in your headWe need to remember to “Lived loved” as Lysa called it.  She reminded us some days she just does not feel it.  Honestly, don’t we all have days like that.  She called it “life karate chops” that come and someone smirks at us we don’t feel loved but we have to tell ourselves we aren’t picking up that negative vibe because we are loved and we need to feel loved and live loved.

I loved the verse she shared.  How many times have I read this?  Only God knows, but it never made the impact it did this week.  This is the kind of emotional stability that Lysa wants no matter who might reject us today:


It’s never too late to join.  I love Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies.  Check it out right here.




We’re Expecting MORE Grandchildren soon

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Say WHAT!  We are expecting MORE grandchildren.  YES, it’s TRUE.

What a story God is writing in our family.  This precious little boy is my grandson, Colt and he is holding two pictures which are twins.   My son, daughter-in-love and grandson, Colt and all of us are anxiously awaiting next March.  If this isn’t a big enough story, God added a sequel and that is  our daughter is also expecting a baby in March.

We are so stinkin’ excited.  So, so many prayers, some heart-break and tears this past year, and now THIS!  God’s plan is perfect.

My daughter-in-love wrote the below blog about their journey to have more children.  Colt was born with a rare skin disease which prevented them from having another baby.  Their journey has been a lot  of heartbreak for us, and now a whole lot of JOY!

If you know someone who is walking through infertility,  or is carrying a rare genetic disorder and cannot have children there is HOPE!

Read and be BLESSED!

My husband and I met online in the summer of 2008. While we were busy “cyber-smooching” (as his dad liked to call it), God was busy creating two of our future children for us—literally. (Mind. Blown.) Here’s how it all went down: In the summer of 2008 (while my husband and I were first getting […]

via God’s plan for our clan — Frozen love

September Goals and August Recap

13 Sep


WELCOME FALL!  Well almost.  It’s still a few days off.  Good thing because usually by now I am decorating, but not yet this year.

The to-do lists never end, do they?  For me there seem to be so many wonderful, beautiful demands.  I love them all.  I am thankful for them all, and thankful that I am blessed with the health to accomplish them, but there are so many other things too that don’t get done, and I have found it makes it a little easier to sneak them in with setting goals.

Being in a hurry.  Getting to the next thing without fully entering the thing in front of me .  I cannot think of a single advantage I have ever gained from being in a hurry.  But a thousand and missed things, tens of thousands lie in the wake of all the rushing….through all that haste I thought I was making up time.  It turns out I was throwing it away.  Ann Voskamp


I don’t really want more time ; I just want enough time.  Time to breathe deep and time to see real and time to laugh long; time to give You glory and rest deep and sing joy and just enough time in a day feel hounded, pressed, driven or wild to get it all done.  Ann Voskamp

AUGUST:  All accomplished

Pray Reverently and Fervently Each Day – We are trusting God to do some mighty things which I hope to be sharing in another month or two.  

Continue my Romans and 1 and 2 Corinthians Devotions each day with the First 5 App from Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies. – July 25 – September 24


Continue praying for the mighty things God is doing in our lives right now.  I’ll share in my October post I promise.

Finish the Romans and 1 and 2nd Corinthians Devotions each day with the First 5 App

Begin the Deuteronomy study with Proverbs 31 devotion app on September 26.  Find out about that here.

Satan said, “you can’t do your on-line study and also one at church and your daily devotion.”  God whispered you can with me.


Begin the on-line Bible study called Uninvited with Proverbs 31.   You can sign up or check it out here .

Begin a Bible study at church called Open Your Bible by Rachel Myers and Amanda Bible Williams.

Seek to have a quiet time every day.

Be still and know that I am God. ~Psalm 46:10



Swimming with family.  It’s August 16 and my husband, 18-month old grandson went swimming one evening already and my husband and I have been in twice, and last week I had both boys and PaPa came home early with a picnic snack for them.  They loved the chicken strip, fries, apples and juice.

Our oldest grandsons third birthday party.  Was loads of fun.

Our 47th wedding anniversary.  Was romantic as always with that man.

Got to add one more.  Spent time with family cleaning out our niece’s father’s house who died last summer.  My sister, brother-in-law, another niece and her husband were all there to help so we had lots of time to visit and eat pizza our niece when and picked up for us.


Going to our lease with our son, daughter-in-law and grandson.

Keep the grandsons for one mom who has been sick and the other for a date night and doctor’s appointments.  One is spending the night this Saturday so our son and his wife can go on a date night.

Help our niece clean out her Dad’s house who passed away last year.


AUGUST:  Total Success

Wear pedometer – 10,000 steps a day or more. Exercise by swimming at least 2 days per week, eat healthier.  (I lost the pedometer twice  working in the yard so hmmmm.)

Lose 2 pounds.  (Sticking this one.  Don’t think it will happen this month.)

Drink 6 large glasses of water per day.

Plan and prepare healthier meals.


Go for yearly physical

Semi-Annual Dental Cleaning

Wear pedometer – 10,000 steps a day.

Treadmill at least one time a week.

Drink 6 large glasses of water per day.

Plan and prepare healthier meals.


AUGUST:  Total Failure

Try and meet another friend for lunch or coffee.

Have some neighbor ladies over for tea/coffee. I hope I can work this one in before school starts back in less than two weeks.


Try and meet a friend for lunch or coffee.

Have some neighbor ladies over for tea/coffee.  This has been on the list forever, and now it’s back to being hard again with school having started.



Finish cleaning and organizing master bedroom closet. (Almost Done)

Catch up on filing in office.  (Failure)

Get the lift-gate recall done on the car.

Buy new tires and have them installed on the car.


Decorate for Fall

Finish cleaning and organizing master bedroom closet.

Catch up on filing in office.

BLOGGING GOALS – Total Failure

With school starting and so many other things happening in August I barely had time to write, but that’s what I did when I found some time.  I am going to continue to move the goals to the next month until I get them completed.

Lesson 2 – Blogging Course. This is the 5th month I’ve had this as a goal. Not sure I can get it done even this month with school starting in a little over two weeks. It is a big lesson, but I am working on the first part and that was going thru all of my old blogs.  I cringe thinking it is already the 5th month.  How can that be?  Where does the time go?

Review and clean-up 15 more blog posts plus 20 I already completed, so it will be 35.

Delete at least 500 more emails (I did get about 200 done, but think 200 or more were added)

Linky Page – Work on a few more days of this project with a completion date of August.


Lesson 2 – Blogging Course. This is the 6th month I’ve had this as a goal. Not sure I can get it done even this month because the school is calling a lot for substitutes. It is a big lesson, but I am working on the first part and that was going thru all of my old blogs.  I cringe thinking it is already the 8th of the month.  How can that be?  Where does the time go?

Review and clean-up 15 more blog posts plus 20 I already completed, so it will be 35.

Delete at least 500 more emails.

Linky Page – Work on a few more days of this project with a completion date of October.

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