The Keep It Shut study ended last week, but life is just so hectic right now I have not had the time to sit down and jot down the things that touched my heart. So many things I don’t want to forget, and it is much easier when it is written down here instead of my notebooks. I can come right back here to be reminded of those things that pricked my heart. Perhaps some of them will prick yours too!
But before I move on to Chapters 7 and 8, I had to add one last thought from my previous blog on Chapter 6.
Karen reminded us how David got his eyes off gossip and his enemies. When our hearts are hurting because of gossip, we need to put our eyes back on Jesus and stop obsessing and worrying about what others are saying. I know it is hard. I see it especially in Jr. High and High School. Teenagers can be so mean not even realizing how they are hurting and damaging someone for the future.
She pointed us back to a powerful verse in Psalms to calm us because our God is bigger than any circumstance we might be going through or any gossip that is being spread about us. Run to Him!
“A gossip is wicked.” OUCH! Karen reminded us of practices that work for her including studying how the Bible describes a gossip, how a gossip stirs up conflict, how to keep quiet, how to make a promise and keep a commitment.
Chapter 7 – But I’m Just Sharing A Prayer Request
Don’t you love that title. Have you heard that before? I have. I loved some of these quotes and highlighted so much.
- Flattery – “When you speak flattering words, you paint yourself into a corner – a very lonely corner. In short order, you can go from being liked to being known as a people-pleasing liar. Flattery may seem like it wins you friends, but in reality it will likely cost your friends in the end.”
- Boasting – “It isn’t wrong to give voice to our dreams. What we are cautioned against is boasting about tomorrow without God anywhere in the picture. We need to keep God’s wishes at the center of our desires.”
- “God invites us to make our plans according to what will be in line with his desire for us and what will bring glory to him, not ourselves.”
- “We need to make sure our words are first meant to please God, not our hearer.”
Chapter 8 – Lying, Loving and Pleasing People
This chapter was about people pleasing, whether to cheer or not to cheer, and flattery. One thing I highlighted that is so true was this:
“It has been said that gossip is saying something behind someone’s back that you would never dare say to their face. However, flattery is the opposite. It is saying something to someone’s face that you would never say behind their back – usually because you don’t really believe it is true.” I say ENOUGH SAID.
Steps Karen listed in fighting the disease to please:
- Beware of Making Promises in Order to Impress Someone
- Let Your Words Be Few
- Do Not Answer Right Away
- Keep God At The Center Of Your Plans
- Know When To Eat Your Words and Admit Your Fault
“We need to make sure our words are first meant to please God, not our hearer.” Karen Ehman
I just say wow. If I do that, I won’t mess up. Think about the power of your words. Are you building others up? Have you caused others pain and harm because of your words?
Such wise words in these chapters, you won’t regret picking up this book. I am so glad I bought it and so glad I participated in the study. Pick up the book – Keep It Shut by Karen Ehman, and hop over to Proverbs31.Org. You can go back to these studies and see video’s and awesome teaching anytime..