Bible Study, Encouragement, Faith

Uninvited Bible Study Notes – Chapters 4 and 5, Conversation Starters and Blessing Others

Week 2 of this study and each chapter gets better.  To think before I started this study I did not think any of it would be applicable to me, but I should have known better.  I have yet to do a Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study and it not punch me some place.

Chapter 4 – Alone in a Crowded Room

Have you ever walked in a crowded room and felt alone?  I have and it takes a whole lot of Jesus to get me through.

Lysa reminded us the problem is not the people in the crowded room, and that we need to prepare in advance with a fullness from God, and that we have to respect ourselves so that we can be able to break our pattern of unlacing unrealistic expectations on others.  Ouch!  Why do I place those expectations on others?  How do I prepare in advance?  This was an eye opener for me as she shared the secret shift we have to make and that is:

“Do I walk into situations prepared with the fullness of God in me, free to look for ways to bless others?”


Do I walk into situations empty and dependent on others to look for ways to bless me?”

I have been guilty of walking into a room and expecting others to seek me out.  I am an introvert, and it is hard for me to start a conversation. Here are some ways you and I can start a conversation at an event:


I’m printing out a smaller version of this and tucking it in my wallet until I get them imprinted in my mind.

Share some ways you start a conversation.  I would love to hear your ideas.

Lysa shared Paul’s prayer to the Ephesians about the fullness of God in Ephesians 3:14-19:

Oh that when we walk in a room of people that we might grasp that fullness of our Lord so that we might bless others.


Chapter 5 – Hello My Name Is Trust Issues

One of my favorite take aways from this chapter was that “the peace of our souls does not rise and fall with unpredictable people or situations.  Our feelings will shift, of course. People do affect us.  But the peace of our souls is tethered to all that God is.”

Here are the notes from Chapters 1 through 3.



44 thoughts on “Uninvited Bible Study Notes – Chapters 4 and 5, Conversation Starters and Blessing Others”

  1. such a great insight:“Do I walk into situations prepared with the fullness of God in me, free to look for ways to bless others?” Just prayed this a.m. that I would be filled to all the fullness of God.
    it’s so true that we put our insecurities on others and expect them to fill us instead of Jesus. When full of Him, He puts us on the giving/spilling over end, and we get filled anyway. thanks for sharing!

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  2. Univitedis such a powerful book full of those “mic-drop” moments… or as you say, punch me moments. This book was so good and I am glad to see your post today at #LMM where we are neighbors. I especially liked your conversation starter questions.

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    1. Thanks Debbie. I loved all those punch me moments and hoping to get some written on this blog so I can put the book away.


  3. So true that once we place expectations on others to fill us or meet our needs, we set ourselves up to judge them and allow others to be our identity instead of being secure in Christ alone. It’s so freeing when we are full in Christ and so freeing for others too, to be themselves with no conditions attached. Sounds like a great study!

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  4. Thanks for sharing your reflections on the book. I think that mindshift from feeling empty and looking to be filled to realising we have the fullness of God and looking to bless makes a big difference. Even just reminding ourselves of that before we enter a situation can change how we approach it.

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  5. I am glad to read your thoughts about Uninvited. I have seen many people post about the book but not with a more indepth discussion of what it is about. I imagine this is a book I will read in the future. Lysa has a way of hitting home with her words over and over. Glad you are enjoying the study.

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  6. I’ve yet to read Uninvited, but it’s at the tip-top of the list. It sounds as though it “hits the spot”. Your conversation starters list is a good one, too. What a great idea to share it! I’ll often ask folks where they’re from, or if I’m at a school event and most folks are strangers, I’ll offer a handshake, my name, and whose mom I am. It almost always opens a connection. Visiting via #raralinkup and #intentionalTuesday.

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    1. Thanks Kristi. I think it’s easier sometimes when you are someone’s mom. My kids are grown now so it’s me trying to meet people alone.


  7. I have a very introverted daughter (and still have those strong tendencies myself) I have to talk to her all the time about what “stand off-ish-ness” communicates to other. It doesn’t tell people you are shy and unsure… it communicates that you are unfriendly and sometimes even aloof. Yes, I had to learn that the hard way. So most of the time, we just have to fight our feelings and just say hello or start talking. It feels weird, but most of the time it invites others to start talking. Thanks for sharing this!

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  8. So I was fighting getting this book, but I might have to cave now, since both those chapters “punch me”. (I call them Jesus 2×4’s 🙂 )

    I found you from the #WAYWOW link up and I’m now following you via Twitter and Pinterest. Looking forward to connecting with you! It’s always nice when you find sisters who love the Word as much as you do. Feel free to stop by my place anytime! I always have coffee 🙂

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    1. I’ve never heard Jesus 2x4s but I love that. Hope you got the book and enjoyed it. I’ll be heading over to your place now – catching up on old comments – a bit behind and I need coffee. It’s midnight here.


    1. I’ve got so much to share from other chapters April. Just so busy and the study is over and another one starts in a week so I hope I can squeeze it in after this #31daywrite


  9. Wow! I needed this, punch back to reality! I too am an introvert in crowds, when I’m with people I know I can be extroverted and cut loose. But walking into a room where I am not comfortable is hard for me. I end up talking way too much cause I am so anxious. This will help me prepare myself better, and hopefully I will look more for the person I can be a blessing too and stop worrying what others think of me. Since my stroke this has been a real challenge as I am more self-conscious, I so need to get over that!

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  10. But the peace of our souls is tethered to all that God is. – YES! People fail us, but God doesn’t. Thank you for sharing this reminder with Thankful Thursdays.

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