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Uninvited Bible Study Notes- Chapters 1-3

20 Sep

Uninvited Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely by Lysa Terkeurst


We all experience rejections, insecurities and fears.

When I first read the title, as always with these studies, I thought I don’t remember ever feeling uninvited, but as I really sit down and began to dive into this book in these first three chapters I can see where I have felt less than, left out and even lonely during my sixty plus years. If we are honest and ponder back we can see how those lies have impacted us from school years into the golden years.

Chapter 1 –  I’d Rather Ignore Honesty

“Come out, come out, wherever you are” – Those were some of Lysa’s first words in chapter 1 reminding us that “honesty wants to speak to the least tidy version of the woman I’ve become.”  I’ll never play hide and seek with my grandsons again and not remember those words.  We try to make things seem better than they actually are.

In becoming honest with ourselves she reminds us that “no matter how saved, sanctified, mature, and free we are, there are misalignments embedded in our souls.”

In Chapter 1, Lysa talks about lines of rejection.  Lines of rejection can be lines that have stayed with us from childhood, from the school years, dating years, marriage years and even all those career years.  Can you remember a time you were rejected by someone in school or even bullied?  Can you remember things that your parents did at a tender age?  These can be simple things that we take personally like unkind or hurtful words, or they can be staggering things like Lysa shared where a parent left and made you feel rejected.  Perhaps a marriage has failed, or a spouse has had an affair and you still carry lines of rejection or thoughts of rejection whispering to you, and you find yourself agreeing with those lies.  How about being laid off or fired from a job?  Lines of lies that linger and linger and begin to define who we are NOT.

Lisa told us to really sit quietly with the Lord and ask what are some of the statements that are still affecting you?  She told us to write just one down and watch how that lie has become a label that sticks with us.  They becomes lies, then labels, then liabilities in our future relationships.  These labels can make us become suspicious of everyone else.

One of my favorite quotes from this chapter was when Lysa was at the airport, had forgotten her luggage and she said, “I’m just such an idiot.  I invite so much unnecessary drama and complication in my life, because my pace and my brain aren’t in sync.  I mean, seriously, what is wrong with my brain?!”  The luggage man then extended his arm, held up his hand and said, “Not in my presence will you talk about yourself this way.  Absolutely not.”  That’s one statement I needed to hear because I’ve called myself stupid so many times, or a failure – failure as a Mom, failure as a housekeeper, failure as a wife – failure, failure, failure.  I remember the last time I did that my husband reminded me I am not now nor ever have been a failure. I can imagine my Father looking down at me and saying “Not in my presence will you talk about yourself this way.  Absolutely not.”  I don’t think I’ll ever call myself a failure again.

I am not a gossiper.  I can keep a truth if you ask me to, but I have talked about me in ways that I would not knowingly let another person talk to me that way.  Lysa calls it “self-rejection.”  “Not in my presence will you talk about yourself this way.  Absolutely not.”

“Rejection steals the best of who I am by reinforcing the worst of what’s been said to me.” That’s a truth reminding us of the nagging feelings we can have when we are rejected – not invited – lines said to us – all those whatevers it is that have caused deep hurts in deep places in your heart.  We forget God is telling us we are good and we are ALWAYS loved.   Have you ever not been invited?  I know I have, but honestly it doesn’t bother me now.  I hope I’ve never made anyone feel that way.  Have you ever invited someone to something, and they called at the last minute and could not come?  Ever felt a pang of rejection?

Chapter 2 – Three Questions We Must Consider

In this chapter we learned about anchors, and not the anchor that my son throws to anchor his boat, but rather things of this world and how they are incapable of being anchors.

Lysa reminded us that “the beliefs we hold should hold us up even when life feels like it’s falling apart.”  That’s a sentence I believe every single one of us can cling to today and every day.  The beliefs we hold should be an anchor that grounds us when we are shaken to the core, and believe me I have been, and I bet you have to.  God’s goodness is not based on how we feel, but rather His truth, and we have to be aligned with His truths in order to be anchored.

So what were the three questions Lysa shared?

  1. Is God good?
  2. Is God good to me?
  3. Do I trust God to be God?

THINGS of this world can not be our anchors.  Our anchor is Jesus Christ.  Our identities must be in Him.  We are His.  Lysa reminded us that “what consumes my thinking will be the making or the breaking of my identity.”  Oh that stinkin’ thinking.  You know you’ve done it.  We need to STOP it.


CHAPTER 3 – There’s a Lady at The Gym Who Hates Me

This chapter got me.   Not that a lady in the gym hates me, but the way I can assign thoughts to others that they are not even thinking.  Have you found yourself doing that?  I have, but I’ve gotten better at it.  I could so used to think I knew exactly what my husband was thinking, and bless his heart he didn’t have a clue and you know what nor did I.  Lysa says, “we own a rejection from them they never gave me.”

Lysa had a perceived rejection with a lady at the gym, and she thought she knew what that lady was thinking.

Don’t do it.  Don’t let your mind even wander there.  You don’t know what another person is thinking.  Satan is putting lies in your headWe need to remember to “Lived loved” as Lysa called it.  She reminded us some days she just does not feel it.  Honestly, don’t we all have days like that.  She called it “life karate chops” that come and someone smirks at us we don’t feel loved but we have to tell ourselves we aren’t picking up that negative vibe because we are loved and we need to feel loved and live loved.

I loved the verse she shared.  How many times have I read this?  Only God knows, but it never made the impact it did this week.  This is the kind of emotional stability that Lysa wants no matter who might reject us today:


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11 Mar

computer blog

We, as bloggers are called to share no matter what our platform is.  For me, it is sharing about faith, inspiration and family, and sometimes a recipe or organization post.

Have you thought about why you blog?  What was your original intent?  For me my original intent was to share about Him, and leave a legacy for future generations.  It is sort of like journaling for me and capturing my thoughts about the days and what I am learning in my Bible studies.  I have to admit sometime I get caught up in numbers/statistics and that is so wrong.  I need to be getting caught up in Him and what He puts on my heart to write about.

He is my audience, an audience of one whether anyone else reads my blog or not.  I have to continue to ask myself,  am I sharing for the glory of God and making Him known, or am I sharing to encourage and to influence others?

I am a servant and writer.   I am set apart.  I am a digital evangelist.  For those that stop by my blog this might be the only Jesus or church they see.  I pray that He uses my words to bless others each time they drop in to see what I have to say.

So how about you?  I would love to hear your thoughts on how you share.

Linking up with Kate Matoung and the #FiveMinuteFriday girls today to write for five minutes on the word share.

This post was featured on Sweet Sauce Blog on 3-21-16.



Not Bogged Down

30 May


That picture is of our back yard.  Yep it’s looked like that for weeks now – at least all of May and part of April.  We went from a snowy winter here in Texas to record setting months of rain and May ended up being the wettest month ever where I live in 100 years for which records have been kept.

I loved studying Joseph and seeing how he refused to never get bogged down.  What a life to follow and model.  No matter what happened to Joseph – being sold to slave traders, held in captive, a slave, and prison after being disliked by his brothers who sold him, Joseph still honored God and he also honored his brothers many years later.  No God didn’t take Joseph out of all those horrible situations, but Joseph still honored him.  How have you honored God during a horrible situation?  I can think of some I have, and some I have not.

This quote by Lysa caused me to pause and re-read.  “And the effects of their bad decision haunted generations who came after them.  As we make ordinary decisions, do we, I wonder, have any idea of the impact and influence those decisions have on the people around us and the generations to come?”  Do you ever stop and think of decisions you are making and how they are impacting future generations?   Are you glorifying God no matter what is going on in your life today?  One bad decision can tragically change our families forever.

During the famine season we learn to depend on God.  “As a result things will be stripped from you that hinder the relationship He wants to have with you. You may experience a shake up in your finances, your friendships, your position of leadership, you expectations, or one of a thousand other things that we put our trust in God.  He strips something away. He does it for our good and not to harm us.”  I have learned He has a holy plan for each of us.  He uses our pain for His purposes.  We have to learn to be thankful no matter the circumstances, and use that pain to glorify Him.

The famine season WILL pass.  God is with us just as He was with Joseph.  Remember the hard times you are going through are for His glory.  This too shall pass!

Let’s refuse to not get bogged down.  Keep moving.  Keep looking up.

Chapter 8 – Refusing to Get Bogged Down – What Happens When Women Walk in Faith – Lysa TerKeurst


29 May

I grew up in a Southern Baptist church and we sang that song “Let Others See Jesus In You.”.  It was kinda’ slow, and not one of my favorite songs, but the older I get, the more I realize there are so many times that others don’t see Jesus in me. Oh my goodness it breaks my heart how I have failed others my whole life – at home, at work, at church.

When I look in a mirror what do I see or what do I think?  Some days I have to admit it’s scary.  Those stinkin’ thoughts like:

  • My hair looks bad.  I need a hair cut, a new hair style, color or perm.
  • Look at those lines.  Oh my goodness I need a face lift, but nope I don’t believe in that.
  • I am sooooooo fat.  I need to go on a diet and I sure need to exercise more as I run a few steps in place there in front of the mirror.
  • I am getting sooooo old.  Good grief – we went today to sign up for Medicare.  Was a very strange feeling.  Where has time gone?  I still feel like that young 19-year old that was getting married yesterday, and yes, still in love with that same wonderful man.
  • I’m a mess.  That does not look good on me.  Why did I buy that?

Are you like me, when you gaze in that mirror?  What do you see or say?

What does God say about you and me?   What if we looked into a mirror and see what He sees?  What we should be thinking when we look in the mirror is:

What God Says About Me

It’s not about who we are looking at in the mirror.  It is and should be about who we are trying to mirror.  I need to look in the mirror and say, “Thank You Lord for how You created me”.  I need to look in the mirror and die to my self every day.  I need to look in that mirror and examine myself in faith and God’s eyes.  We need to be asking God who we are, and looking to be more like Him by studying what the Word says.  We need to spend time in our mirror – the Word – and not just glancing in a glass mirror.

As we begin to see ourselves as Jesus sees us, we will begin to look at others differently and they will see Jesus in us.  Is He reflected today in your actions with your family, friends, and neighbors?  Is He reflected today in your blogging, your email, your Facebook comments, your church, your jobs, the way you handle money and keep your home and body?  Our behavior should mimic His, and I have to honestly say my behavior does not some time.

Do others see Jesus in you:

  • When you go out to eat and a waitress messes up, or does not give you the exceptional service that YOU deserve, do you send back the food in a rude manner and just complain about everything?  Do you tip her/he less because of their poor service?  Do you belittle them to their manager?  Is that what Jesus would do?  For me, I used to tip 10-20 % depending on service.  But, today I realize that Jesus wants me to treat every waiter the same.
  • When a driver cuts you off, do you cuss, do you make hand motions, do you call them an idiot or worse?  Is that what Jesus would do?  When that happens I pray for that driver that God will change their heart and actions.
  • When your child disappoints you or makes a mistake, do you scream and yell or do you sit down and talk about it?  I have to admit when mine were younger, Jesus saw me yelling at times.  I don’t get a do-over and yep there are things I would do different today.
  • When you are upset with your spouse, do you clam up or do you yell and throw things?  Both are wrong. I used to clam up.  Not proud of it, but it’s good for the soul to look back at how far I have come.
  • When a telephone solicitor calls, how do you respond?  I’m still working on that one.  If you have ideas, I would love to hear them.  Yes, the phone just rang, and it was an unknown number.  I decided to answer and be nice and polite.
  • When someone messes up at work, do you show grace?  We’ve all been there.  Remember when you messed up and how you felt.

Titus 27

When I think less of myself, I don’t need others to fill my cup.  I only need Jesus to fill my cup.  When I think less of myself I am not as sensitive, or self-conscious, or comparing myself to others.  When I think less of myself, I am not looking for compliments to feel good, or look for others approval.  When I think less of myself I only have to look to Him for my approval.

If you want to let others see Jesus in you:

  • Be the same person every day that you are in church, unless you are the one in church that is causing conflict.
  • Be a person that can keep a confidence.  It’s so hard to find a friend that can keep a confidence.  I love that my husband and my children can be trusted to keep a confidence, and me too.
  • Be a person of self-control.  Control your tongue to not gossip.  Control your anger – it’s not that hard.  Control your emotions.
  • Be kind and compassionate and not greedy or stingy.
  • Be honest.  Don’t exaggerate.  Don’t cover up your children’s mistakes, and please admit when they fail at school and listen to the school administration.  Don’t misrepresent the facts or add to them.
  • Be humble – not cocky, not proud, not self-centered.
  • Be pure.  Watch what you read and what you see on television.
  • Be a person who serves and not one that expects to be served.

We have to become more like Christ in everything we do.  Let your lights shine!

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Linking up with Suzanne Eller on Live Free Thursday  

RISE {Five Minute Friday}

22 May


It’s Five-Minute Friday and I am joining Kate Motaung and the FMF girls to write with no polishing for five minutes. The word today is RISE.

These verses were the first thing that  came to mind when I saw the word prompt for today.

Psalm 1391-4

When I rise up every morning He knows it.  I awaken each day early and excited and jump out of bed to go to the bathroom, wash my face, sip a drink of water and make the bed.  After breakfast it is two, or some days five cups of coffee with a little sweetener and gingerbread creamer.  Yep, I freeze the creamer at Christmas when the stores have it so I have enough to last until next season when the pumpkin and gingerbread creamers arrive back in the stores.

While I’m drinking coffee, I am doing my Bible study and blogging and treasuring those sweet, quiet moments in the morning before the sun rises with my Lord, my Bible and my coffee.  He knows when I am sitting down and is with me every single morning.

This verse reminded me today that He is always near.  He’s there even when we don’t feel it, even when we think He is milliions of miles from us, when our heart are breaking, when we are praising.  He is there.

He sees our defects, our faults, our longings, our misgivings.  He knows our thoughts and He knows our dreams.  He knows the words I am thinking.  He knows those words I feel like blurting out when someone almost runs me off the road.   He sees.  He knows.

I love The Message version of these verses.   It says I am like an”open book”.  What a way to describe it, and may I model the Bible as my open book.  He knows when I am, and He knows when I am not.

He searches me or in other words, examines me.  He knows things that my friends and family do not know about me.  He knows my good habits like when I want to clean and when I want to exercise, and He knows my bad habits when I don’t eat right and yes when I go get that unhealthy snack out of the pantry.  He knows every good and every stinkin’ thing about my days and nights.

I am ALWAYS on His mind.

“God sees us with the eyes of a Father.  He sees our defects, errors, and blemishes.  He also sees our value”  Max Lucado

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