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Missing Mom This Mother’s Day

14 May

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Are you missing your Mom this Mother’s Day?  

If your Mom is still here with you, are you savoring the moments?  Are you spending time with her today?  If not, have you called and told her you love her?

This time of the year brings back so many memories of my Mom because this is also her birthday week – the 12th.  I was so glad on Friday that I was at school subbing to keep my mind off it, but tonight she’s been in my thoughts and yes I want to selfishly cry, but I’ve held back the tears so far.  I know she is with my Dad, but how I miss them both.  Wish they could have had one glimpse of our five grandchildren.
I remember the first year Mom died.  It was Valentine’s week 2013. That first Mother’s Day service at church was hard.  I had to force myself to go. I only did so because I felt ashamed not going.  I grabbed kleenex.   I was ready to let the tears roll.  A few tears spilled out  during the music, but then we had a guest speaker.   He was so, so funny that I laughed and laughed, and laughed.  I was so thankful that I had gone.  I love how our church takes care of everyone and honors even those that are going through infertility, those that have no children, those that have lost children, some adopted folks, etc..
I miss so many things about Mom.  Just seeing everything on television -the ads for flowers, and Facebook feeds are enough to make you dwell on the fact you never really knew your Mom like you wished you had.  So many unanswered questions I wished I had asked, but I am thankful I did on some days when I was visiting and she was feeling well.  I learned a lot sitting with Mom at the nursing home after she lost her leg from a horrible infection she got during a surgery.  Before that we were honored to have her staying with us three girls.
I am choosing to honor Mom this year as I have in the past with blessed memories.  Here are some special things I remember about my Mom:
  • How she would dress us girls up.  She would dress my middle sister and me alike in the cutest little dresses for Easter and Christmas.  See those little pearl necklaces.  I still have mine on a decorative pillow my mom and my middle sister below made one Christmas and they added our necklaces. Hope my kids don’t throw away that pillow when I’m gone.PicMonkey Image-100.jpg
  • How she curled our hair or put it in a pony tail.  She was so good at it.  I never have been.  Look at those curls in our hair.
  • Her chocolate pies. Yes, I have her recipe.
  • Her roasts on Sunday evenings.
  • Her enchiladas back in the day when there were not Mexican food restaurants around.  We would have lots of company over and Mom would have pans of enchiladas.
  • Her giving spirit.  She would give her last dollar to help someone.
  • Her unending love for my Dad even up to the time she died.  She died Valentine’s week, and I remember my husband saying as we sit there waiting for the funeral home to come that Mom would be spending Valentine’s Day with Daddy.
  • She was strict which caused me to be the person I am.
  • The way she celebrated Christmas and Easter and how family was so important.  I used to think she was selfish sometimes for demanding our presence as we ran around two places with kids and worn out.  Now I know why it was so important to her.  It’s important to me, but I don’t demand it.
When Mom died I wrote a poem in her honor.  My Dad was always writing poems for holidays and family.  I wrote this one and wanted to share here in memory of Mom.
Missing You Mom
by Debbie Williams
This for us has been an unimaginable day
Mom we are missing you more than words can say.
This week we have had so many fears
And we have shed thousands upon thousands of tears.
So many sleepless nights and a heavy load
So many stories we’ll miss that were never told.
On this the last day to celebrate you
You would be so proud mom those who are here honoring you!
You’ve been so sick and so strong for so so long
And even missed hearing Leslie’s beautiful song.
Your poor body has been through so much
Sometimes you hurt so bad we could not even touch.
So sick for so long, fighting battle upon battle and always winning the fight
We didn’t think we would get a call so soon that night.
Oh Mom we missed holding your hand and saying goodbye
It seems so unfair we weren’t by your side.
But we know God was there alongside.
We are giving our Father thanks and glory today
That He chose to call you home for Valentine’s Day
Oh we know there will be moments of great grief
Sadness, and missing you – right now it’s unbelief.
Thank you Mom for your pride and great joy and for
 loving on all your girls and boys.
We will have moments when we are wishing you were by our side
But we will pause and ponder on those memories of you with pride.
With thanks we give God today for His gift of you
Thank You Jesus this life is all about YOU!
With Love – Debbie, Delores, Danna, Sandra and your Precious Son-in-Laws and Grandchildren
Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.  Exodus 20:12 (KJV)
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9 May

Mother's Day

Happy Mother’s Day to all my Facebook friends and family.

I love Mother’s Day, but I also know for many that it is painful.  I understand losses having been through some of those painful times of infertility, miscarriages, a given up, a child that slipped away,  one that failed you, and now the death of my Mom.

It can be joyous for many and heart breaking for others.  Many of you are teachers, nurses, or just work out in the public with young women that need role models or you have nieces and nephews and cousins that need role models.  You touch lives just as mother’s do and perhaps even more – so Happy Mother’s Day to YOU!

Some of you never met your mother, some have lost their mothers, and some are estranged from your mothers, but she gave you life.  Life may have been hard and the past hurts really bd, but not matter what you have been through you can give thanks for the life she gave you.

For me I could sit here an be sad BUT GOD.  I sit here and give thanks.  If you have negative feelings, look back and find some good times even if it is only one precious memory.  There are some there if we but stop and pause and reflect back. Your Mom may not have been a role model but you can be.  She may not have been a role model, but she is the one that God gave you.

Emmanuel – My God with me has been here every step of every single painful moment, and I have felt the peace that only The God of Peace can bring.  Do I miss my Mom this Mother’s Day?  You bet I do and I will every Mother’s Day, but I love thinking back on memories.


“Some mothers are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is love just the same, and most mothers kiss and scold together.” ~Pearl S. Buck

Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory.”  Author Unknown.

No other success in life – not being President, or being wealthy, or going to college or writing a book, or anything else — come up to the success of the man or woman who can feel that they have done their duty and that their children and grandchildren rise up and call them blessed.” Theodore Roosevelt, 1917.

# Legacy – Blessed By Women – Week 4

2 May


No gift to your mother can ever equal her gift to you.  Anonymous

This week we shifted gears from listing five blessings to honor women who have blessed our lives. Is there a woman or women who have impacted your faith and influenced your life with God’s love or attributes of his love? I immediately started to list names of women in my life, and those who have had an influence  on who I have become. It is my to honor to reflect on some of those women.

LEGACY – dicitionary.com – “Anything handed down from the past, as from an ancestor.”

As I think about leaving legacies and my list, I want to remember women who I feel made me what I am today – those women who nurtured me, encouraged me, challenged me and prayed for me. I want to remember those women who I feel have passed on to me a legacy to leave for those who come after me.

Proverbs 13:22 (KJV) “A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children’s children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.”

What inheritance are you leaving your children and grandchildren? My hope is that I can leave a little of these beautiful ladies to pass down to my grandchildren.  Merriam Webster Dictionary defines inheritance in this context as “the acquisition of a possession, condition, or trait from past generations”.

“Some mothers are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is love just the same, and most mothers kiss and scold together.” ~Pearl S. Buck


Louise Templin – Mom was strict, she had a heart of giving – would give her last dollar to help someone.  She also had a heart of love and caring. She taught me about the importance of home, family and tradition,  and what a wife should be as well as how to honor and love her husband.

Mom and Dad were married for almost fifty years when he died, and Mom held on to that love until she died this year.   Mom loved to cook and handed that legacy down to my sisters and me, and my children and their spouses.  She sewed and quilt.  Mom taught me to save taking  me to the bank to open a savings account.

I believe the biggest legacy that Mom leaves me is her love of family. She loved to have people over on holidays and she insisted on it no matter what.  She and dad always had something special planned on holidays – a poem he would write, Easter baskets and stuffed bunnies, costumes she made for the kids for Halloween and Thanksgiving and always the family tradition, that will hopefully continue in generations to come, is that recital around the table and all of us holding hands and repeating The Lord’s Prayer (a tradition handed down from Dad’s family that I remember at my Granny’s house.) While my vault of memories is full and causes me to smile through my tears, my mom’s real legacy in my life runs very deep … and wide – her love.

Thank you Mom!  Happy 80th Birthday on May 10, 2013, Mom and Happy Mother’s Day – I MISS you!  I hope this song blesses each of you like it did me

Ella Arnold Templin – My grandmother. She at one time or another practiced various religions. She loved church, and she kept going until she found the right one that ministered to her. When she came to town, she took us or we took her. She loved the Lord and I have so many fond memories of her and church, and even one after I married and she, my hubby and I were leaving church.  The pastor greeted her and she told him how he had misquoted a verse.  She willed me all her Bibles, but for some reason they disappeared when she died. That hurt because that was a great connection the two of us had – our faith.

What an example for me as I entered into my teenage years and my future husband and I would drive down to visit and go to church with her.  I remember when I was small she lived on a farm.  I watched her churn butter and milk cows.

My Granny was also the one that taught me about history of my Daddy’s family and told me stories, giving me that love of genealogy and family as she recited to me how her family came from TN to AR by covered wagon, and how some of them fought in the civil war. Precious memories. I thank her for giving me a heart of memories and wish today she were here for just one more chat so I could take lots of notes.

Ella is on the right in this picture with the glasses.  Bertha is on the left.


Bertha Racker –  My Granny worked hard. With ten children how could she not! I remember watching her wash clothes outside on the porch with a wringer washing machine, and watching her in the kitchen cooking (maybe that cooking legacy is where Mom got it). I also remember Granny wringing a chicken’s neck to fry up for dinner, and oh I remember the homemade biscuits and unfortunately that recipe was not passed down. I remember her flower beds and believe that’s where my love of flowers and garden work came from because Mom was not into yard work (Dad was). Granny worked hard, went to church, and loved us. I also remember her taking me to town on Saturday and those candies she bought me – I love them to this day – maple nut candies.   She didn’t have a lot of money, but like my mom she spent it on her loved ones. YUM! I never walk by maple nut candies in the store today when I don’t reflect on my Granny.

Matthew 5:15-16 (KJV) “Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”

Virginia Williams – My Mother-In-Law – My MIL took me under her wing just like a daughter. She loved me – took care of me when I was pregnant with toxemia and even my children after I went back to work and she is a phone call away – next door if we need ANYTHING. She loves the Lord and always has an encouraging word if something is bothering you. She, like my mom, loves and adores her family. She loves yard work, she loves cooking and she loves the Lord. She works very hard, is very organized and loves to sew which she has passed down to my daughter and both her daughters.

My daughter was born preemie  and  she made beautiful  gowns and dresses for her until she could fit into newborn clothes.  I thank her for raising my husband to be the Godly man, father, hard worker, and husband he is. He has so many of her attributes, and loves the Lord and his family like she does. Her arms are always outstretched in love and prayer.  She is a light – his light and she shines before men and women in her hard work ethic and love.  Here is a picture of Nan and I a couple of mother’s days ago.  me-and-nanny.jpg

Amanda – My daughter – My daughter at times has put me to shame with her love of the Lord. She taught me to love christian music. I was an oldies girl until one day when she was about five, she asked me to turn the radio to 94.9 Christian radio.  It was like REALLY I don’t want to do that, but how could I say no.  Well that changed my life and that is about all I’ve listened to now for 25 years – sometimes I’ll put on an oldie. Amanda was a preemie, not expected to live, many months of prayers and she came home but was supposed to be a sickly child and be mentally slow. NOT – God took over – she was summa cum laude in college for her BA and Masters and she was the valedictorian of her high school.  She is an organizer and a perfect housewife and a great example of a Proverbs 31 woman.  Currently, my Amanda is like Sarah and Hannah in the Bible – anguishing over not yet having a child – but she hangs on to hope, and we are looking forward to that day God blesses her with a baby of her own to hold and love and teach that child about Jesus.  We believe with all our hearts that God WILL honor her because of her faithfulness and love for him, and because of the thousands of prayers being lifted up for her through Proverbs 31 Ministries and our church.

A picture of the girls and my son with Mom.  Whitney on the left and Amanda on the right.


Whitney  – My daughter-in-love – She rocks. Her love of the Lord is as amazing as my daughter’s and talk about encouraging. She always has something sweet to say. She is fun, will try any new thing and she can organize and decorate beautifully.  She’s about to birth my first grand baby, Colt, a boy in August. I thank her for that, and I am so proud that God sent her to be the mother to my grandchildren as we continue to pass down legacies. She is going to create some new ones and hopefully her grandchildren will remember her one day as someone who was the reflection of the Proverbs 31 Lady.  Whitney is always full of joy and I believe joy is one of the greatest gifts a mother can give her children.

Beth Moore and Melissa Ross Taylor – I put Beth and Melissa in the same category.  I started Beth Moore conferences when my children were small and was blessed immensely, but it was not until I retired last year that I found Melissa.  I have grown because she stretches us.  I am more into my Bible, verse mapping, verse memorizing and praying for and with women all over the world and look she has me blogging and now leading a facebook group of the most precious women.  I would say Beth was my first mentor, but definitely now Melissa is so in tune individually with all of her family of girls that she mother’s us, she knows us, she loves us, she grows us, and she teaches us.  I thank God for helping me find Melissa.  Follow me to grow in His word at MelissaTaylor.org.

How about you?  Do you have a woman or women that has impacted your life?  I hope so and ask you to share below.  If not, my prayer is that if  you are reading this that God will bless you with woman who will impact your life for the Lord’s Kingdom!

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